Courtney Stivers

Can You Fix Your Family?

Can You Fix Your Family?

I have noticed a significant reoccurring pattern in several of my client’s stories these past few weeks and thought it might be helpful to share my thoughts on this with others.

There are some amazing families out there who are loving, securely attached, have healthy boundaries, and fulfill individual emotional needs in balanced ways. They handle big feelings and give grace for the human imperfections that are in even the best of us. They address conflicts and repair hurts in relationships. Yet, many of the adult clients who end up in my office do not come from such a family. Often, a big part of their recovery is identifying patterns they learned from their family of origin, such as attachment styles, communication, and handling conflict.

Book Review: Rising Strong by Brené Brown

Book Review: Rising Strong by Brené Brown

Before I get to the book review, I want to be completely honest with our readers about my own personal biases. I am a big Dr. Brene Brown fan and have been for years. I tried to go to her live event in Nashville, TN and was heartbroken to learn that the tickets were sold out so far in advance. I contacted Random House to see if I could talk my way in to no avail, but they did send me a prerelease copy and asked if I wanted to review Rising Strong on our blog. I absolutely said yes. I am going to give an overview and review of the book, and then share my experience of reading the book. Also, just to be clear, this is not a sponsored post.

Do Marriage Counselors have Better Marriages?

Do Marriage Counselors have Better Marriages?

Recently, I wrote an article that raised some questions about the divorce rates of therapists, specifically Marriage and Family Therapists. As a MFT, I wanted to learn more about this topic.  I decided to dig a little bit deeper, and see if I could make sense of these statistics in existing research. There are many studies about psychotherapists, but not as many specific to MFTs.

Why You Should Probably Marry an Optometrist (Part 1)

Why You Should Probably Marry an Optometrist (Part 1)

Have you ever wondered if there was a link between divorce rates and your profession?  There are many personality and lifestyle issues to consider when choosing a lifelong companion.  Though no one factor will doom your relationship, you may want to consider a nice Optometrist. 

Marriage & Divorce: Family Therapists Share Their Own Stories

Marriage & Divorce: Family Therapists Share Their Own Stories

I have done a bit of research gathering stories of marriage and family therapists and their thoughts on marriage. As a marriage and family therapist who is married to another marriage and family therapist, I have a deeply personal interest in learning more about the marriages of therapists.