Play Therapy: Common Questions and Answers

Guidance for Parents and Caregivers Supporting Children

If you've read my previous post about Play Therapy, you may still have questions. I support you! It’s completely natural to have questions before your child begins play therapy. Parents often wonder what to expect, how their child will respond, and how they themselves will be involved. Here are some of the most common questions I hear from families:

How long does play therapy take?

Every child is unique. Some children show noticeable changes within a few weeks, while others benefit from ongoing support over several months. Your therapist will check in with you regularly about your child’s progress and goals.

What if my child doesn’t want to go?

It’s common for children to feel unsure at first. Many warm up once they see the playroom and realize it’s a safe, welcoming space. If your child resists, your therapist can work with you on gentle ways to ease the transition.

How do I explain this appointment to my child before their first session?

Keep it simple and positive. You might say, “You’re going to meet someone who has a special room with lots of toys. Their job is to help kids with big feelings by playing together.” Avoid making it sound like a punishment or something to “fix” them: frame it as a safe, supportive place just for them.

Will I be in the room during sessions?

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It depends on your child’s needs and the therapist’s approach. Younger children may benefit from a parent joining in, while older children often open up more when they have space of their own. Either way, as your child's guardian, you can request updates or parent meetings for updates on your child’s growth and process. 

What if my child just “plays” and doesn’t talk?

That’s completely normal. Play is your child’s way of talking. Play therapists are trained to understand the themes and emotions that come through in play, even if your child isn’t using words.

Is play therapy only for children with big problems?

Not at all. Play therapy can help children with a wide range of challenges; from everyday stress, sibling conflicts, and school anxiety, to coping with loss, divorce, or trauma. Think of it as emotional support and skill-building, not just “fixing problems.”

How will I know if it’s working?

You may notice gradual changes in your child’s mood, behavior, or coping skills. The therapist will also share insights and updates. Sometimes the progress shows up in small ways first; fewer meltdowns, more willingness to try new things, or more positive interactions at home. Every child learns at their own pace.

A Final Word for Parents

Reaching out for support is a powerful step. You don’t need to have everything figured out before you begin. Play therapy gives your child a safe space to heal and grow, and it also gives you tools and guidance along the way. Remember, you and your child are not alone in this journey. Together, and especially with support, growth and healing are possible.

If you’re curious about whether play therapy might be right for your child, research and contact a child therapist in your area. Sometimes starting the conversation can make all the difference.

Recommended Reading for Parents

If you’d like to learn more about play therapy and supporting your child’s emotional growth, here are some excellent resources:

• “Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship” by Garry L. Landreth A classic guide for understanding the philosophy behind play therapy.

• “Parenting with Play Therapy: A Practical Guide to Nurturing Emotional Well-Being” by Nancy Boyd WebbAccessible, parent-friendly insights.

• “Child-Centered Play Therapy: A Practical Guide to Developing Therapeutic Relationships with Children” by Rise VanFleetHelpful for parents curious about the techniques therapists use.

Short Videos about Play Therapy

If you’re a visual learner, like me, here are some short videos on YouTube that do a great job of outlining play therapy and its benefits:

• Introduction to Play Therapy Therapist Joey Harmon gives a quick overview of child-centered play therapy in the first 3 minutes 

• Play Therapy Works! A succinct video by the Association for Play Therapy introducing what play therapy is and why credentialed therapists matter 

• Play is the Child’s Language: Play Therapy Joanne Wicks describes how play is children’s emotional expression in a brief talk 

• Introducing Andrew A short clip emphasizing that “play is a child’s first language” and how children express inner worlds through play